Are you spam?
Posted on October 22, 2010 by LJ Earnest
Categories: Life Design
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A recent post over at Smart Pretty and Awkward asked the question: Are you spam?
Spam is annoying, irrelevant and bothersome. It comes in our email boxes, but did you know it can come in other forms? Really, anything that is annoying, bothersome and irrelevant is spam.
Are you spam to someone? Do you add meaning or noise to somone else’s (or your own) life?
Here are five ways to get yourself out of spam-dom:
Be interested
There is something really wonderful about talking to a person who is interested in what you have to say. If you can show yourself to be absorbed by what another is saying, you will be more interesting to them.
Be interesting
People with single interests are boring. Have you ever been cornered at a party by someone who wants to talk about their pistachio collection? Even if mainstream things are not your cup of tea, having a knowledge of pop culture can make for conversation starters.
Be supportive
It is really hard to feel good about being around someone who is either so self-absorbed they don’t care about others, or who are constantly bringing us down. Learn to be supportive of other’s dreams, needs and emotions. There is plenty in the universe to go around.
Be open to new ideas
Staying relevant in modern life means being open to new ideas. Being fixed in attitudes or opinions can leave you in a previous century.
Be flexible
Rigid people take a lot of energy to be around. Keep your flexibility and go with the flow.
Please add to this list. None of us wants to be spam!
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Comments (2)
Learn to gain awareness of when other people are getting bored with a conversation.
I can’t stand when I feel cornered by someone who won’t stop talking. They don’t seem to be aware of the social cues that indicate the person they’re talking with is getting bored and wants the conversation to end. I definitely don’t want to be one of those people, so I try to watch for the polite smiling and nodding without much feedback. This usually means they want me to stop talking and end the conversation.
I get cornered often and I have had to really work to come up with ways to get away from people. I find it’s not just boredom…there are some people who just really have no clue they are too close, too offensive, too loud, or whatever.
I work hard not to be that person, so I also watch for the clues.